In Luke 16:10(NLT), our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, imparts profound wisdom about the stewardship of God’s blessings. He teaches, “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities.” This verse emphasizes the importance of responsibility and accountability, and both are benchmarks of spiritual maturity in Christ. God expects us to immerse and sharpen ourselves through His Word so that we handle the blessings He bestows upon us with integrity and diligence. As believers, we all have the capacity to do this, and our commitment to managing God’s blessings well will ultimately determine whether we will keep them.
This is especially true when it comes to our significant relationships with men. Our habits can either make or break things from the get-go. One of those habits is oversharing the details of our relationships with our girlfriends, giving them front-row seats before we’re even sure what we’re working with. This isn’t a good look, and our failure to apply wisdom in this area can end up causing drama and heartache down the road.
“Girl, you’re a pro at keeping people out of your business.” When my friend first said this to me, I was a little concerned, thinking I might have offended her somehow. But to my surprise, she was actually giving me a compliment. Until then, I hadn’t really considered my knack for keeping my personal life under wraps. It’s not that I live a secretive existence; I’ve just learned the importance of not oversharing, especially when it comes to my relationship status.
The wisdom of Proverbs 13:3(NLT) states, “Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.” My mom always stressed the significance of this verse. It isn’t about a lack of trust but rather about being smart, and her advice has always stuck with me. Another nugget of truth to live by is in Proverbs 4:7. It reminds us that wisdom is of utmost importance, and we should seek to gain it along with understanding, enabling us to effectively apply that wisdom and live fruitful and prosperous lives because of it.
Her advice stuck with me because, as she put it, the devil is always looking for opportunities to stir up trouble. To prevent him from meddling in our relationships and to sidestep unnecessary drama and interference, we must use wisdom to discern what we should and shouldn’t disclose.
Job’s story in the Bible serves as a powerful reminder. Despite losing everything — his children, livestock, and even his health — he remained steadfast in his faith. Yet, throughout his trials, the adversary kept a watchful eye on him. Job’s misery was further worsened by certain friends that he deemed his “miserable comforters”, because rather than encouragement, they added insult to injury.
Job 2:2 (NLT) reads, ““Where have you come from?” the Lord asked Satan. Satan answered the Lord, “I have been patrolling the earth, watching everything that’s going on.” This passage serves as a reminder that the enemy is persistent, and often uses people to spy on our every move, particularly when we’re experiencing blessings and the favor of the Lord in our lives. It’s crucial not to forget that faith requires focus — that we should be in our prayer closets, seeking God, patiently awaiting His guidance, and allowing our faith the space it needs to flourish. These are precisely the areas the enemy seeks to disrupt and intercept in our relationships. We mustn’t provide him with any openings by disclosing matters that should remain solely between us and the Lord.
The ability to exercise discretion with discernment is a true gift, not only to our relationships but also to our overall well-being. There are certain aspects of our lives that we should hold sacred and keep private. It’s important to remember that the enemy can’t attack what he doesn’t know. As responsible custodians of the blessing of a significant relationship, we must be wise, cautious, and careful about giving our friends too much information and access. Rather than relying solely on our own judgment, we should seek God’s guidance on when and what to disclose. Following His wisdom will always lead us in the right direction. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Eyes Are on You”, written by Kim Times, edited by Fran Mack and KLizzie for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2024. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.
