As women that have been married more than a few years, we sympathize with those who want so much to be married. We understand their desire to feel secure and not have to walk through life alone. Just the other day, a single friend of mine who works at a hospital shared something that stuck with him. He talked about the stark difference between patients at the end of their lives who have family and friends who genuinely care about them and are by their sides and those that do not. He said to me, “I’m terrified of getting to that stage of life and being alone.”

I think we can all appreciate his sentiment. However, there’s a long road between where we are now and the change we hope to see in our lives. One of the things our mature years teach us is just how challenging the process of change can be.

No matter where we are or what stage of life we find ourselves in, we can all envision a better future. Yet, we all face those stubborn situations that seem unyielding—like a husband who just won’t change, a job that feels like a dead end, or people who seem to be working against us. Maybe it’s something about ourselves that we wish we could fix but just can’t seem to change. When you’ve been grappling with these same issues for years, it’s easy to feel burnt out and frustrated, thinking nothing is going to change for the better.

Well, here’s a truth that is consistent across the board and never changes: when it comes to a shift in our circumstances and conditions, at the end of the day, it all boils down to our own commitment to change. It begins with us, and that’s a very challenging thing for many to accept.

Giving ourselves the luxury and taking a moment to pause and reflect on this is a very beneficial exercise. Philippians 4:13 (NLT) tells us, “For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.” This verse packs a punch—it’s a declaration of power and authority. This mountain-moving, more than conquering ability we’ve received because of our union with Christ wasn’t given to sit idle; it’s meant to be exercised robustly.

This realization should open our eyes to the fact that there is indeed a new approach to tackling our old problems. It starts with changing the way we think about ourselves and embracing the power we’ve been given to transform our lives for the better. When we acknowledge that we have the strength to face our challenges, we can break free from old patterns and move toward a more fulfilling future.

For many of us, a new approach begins with seeing our lives in a different way. Through our experiences and what we’ve been taught, we might have adopted an opinion in the past that makes us view our lives as a series of random events. But for the child of God, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Psalm 37:23 (NLT) says, “The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives.” For believers, nothing happens by chance. As Proverbs 19:21 (NLT) reminds us, “You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.”

Our Heavenly Father has orchestrated everything—when and where we would be born, who our parents would be, and the environments that shape us. The places we call home, the communities we’re part of, and the people we encounter are not random; they’re divinely appointed. Each of these elements is designed to give us the best opportunity to grow and advance in Christ.

The impactful epiphany my friend had about not wanting to be alone during the most difficult parts of life really hit home for him. This wasn’t random, but a divine glimpse aimed at expanding his perspective; letting him know that it’s time to shift the focus off himself and onto spiritually preparing for something greater. Our challenges, whether with stubborn spouses or other issues that seem to be on repeat, these are purposeful too. They are reflections meant to inspire and deepen intimacy in our relationship with God. A new approach for many of us is to see them that way—to see them as opportunities for growth, encouraging us to embrace our faith and trust that each challenge brings us closer to our Heavenly Father.

Galatians 6:5 (NLT) tells us, “For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” It’s possible that our conduct and choices are leading down a path that won’t bring us satisfaction and fulfillment in the future. A new approach is exactly what we need, and through Christ, we are empowered to embrace it. As we remain focused on God and are committed to be guided by the Holy Spirit, the Lord will help us make shifts and even chart a new course. Remember, it’s never too late to turn toward Him, seek His guidance, and create a future filled with purpose and joy. We have to trust this.

Change often requires us to step out of our comfort zones and challenge our perspectives. Sometimes, we need to pray more and pray differently, seeking God’s guidance in ways we haven’t before. This shift in mindset and approach can open doors to new possibilities and a closer walk with Him, but with everything, it must be led by the Holy Spirit. We need to place our hands in his hands, as he shows us that our lives are not stuck, but rather filled with potential and purpose. As we surrender our fears and uncertainties, we can discover the freedom and joy that come from being led by the Lord to new approaches, new solutions, and new victories in Christ. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“A New Approach to An Old Problem”, written by Rev. Fran Mack. Edits by Kim Times and K. Lizzie for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2024. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.