As the clock struck midnight, my phone started buzzing with a flood of “Happy New Year!” messages. Friends and family were eager to reach out—and I was no different. On New Year’s Day, I called everyone I knew to wish them a great year ahead, including my friend Evelyn. “Girl, this is the year. I know I’m getting married,” she said with excitement. Evelyn’s words reflect a common hope shared by many Christian single women: the belief that this year, God will answer their prayers and bring the right person into their lives.
Psalm 145:19 (NLT) says, “He grants the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cries for help and rescues them.” This is a beautiful promise, but there’s an important truth in this verse as well. When it comes to God’s promises, as believers, we have to know that prayers are not random wishes. They are affirmations of our understanding and trust in God’s Will and who He is. Our prayers express not only our hope for the fulfillment of our desires but also our commitment to fulfill His plan and purpose for our lives.
It’s not uncommon for single believers to be very frustrated in this area of their lives. After years of being alone, they can become weary, and even pessimistic, with hearing so much about purpose and God’s plan. But here’s the truth about this frustration: it will either drive us to seek God with greater commitment and zeal, or it will reveal that the desire we claim to want most isn’t truly our deepest longing. When a desire is genuinely anchored in our hearts, we never turn it loose. We recognize that it is God who placed it there, and with that desire comes the faith to see it through to the end. We simply never give up.
Psalm 37:4-5 (NLT) says, “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you.” A heart for God is a heart that is pure towards Him. This means it is a heart that finds joy and fulfillment in our relationship with Him. Our Heavenly Father knows every detail about us, and He knows what is in our hearts this very moment. When He instructed His prophet Samuel to anoint the next king of Israel, 1 Samuel 16:7 (NLT) says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, ‘Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.’” We can never get away from this truth. Our hearts tell the real story about what we truly value.
God sees our level of commitment towards Him, and He also knows what matters most to us—getting the man or pleasing Him. Jesus Christ teaches in Matthew 6:19-20 (NLT): “Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal.” When our treasures are stored in heaven, we recognize that our ultimate worth and fulfillment come from God alone. By prioritizing Him above all else, including relationships or worldly achievements, we are storing up treasures that are eternal—things that cannot be taken away or destroyed by time, circumstances, or any earthly disappointment.
Matthew 6:21 (NLT) continues, “Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” This verse reminds us that what we value most reveals the true state of our hearts. If our greatest desire is to please God and seek His Will, then He will guide us to the right path, including in relationships. However, if our primary focus is on obtaining a man or a certain status, that desire can distract us from God’s best plan for our lives.
God wants us to share the kind of excitement Evelyn has about the possibilities the New Year brings, but we must ask ourselves: Are we even more excited about deepening our relationship with Him? The key to receiving the desires of our hearts is rooted in trusting God completely. As single Christian women, we need to first build a relationship with Him, allowing His love to be the foundation of our lives. When we align our desires with His Will, we can trust that, whether it’s a spouse or something else, He will bring the right things into our lives at the right time. Let God be your first love, and He will fulfill your deepest desires in ways beyond your imagination. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Will God Give Me What I Desire Most?” written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack and KLizzie for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.